We are here to say that cleaning out your closets is a good idea. You forgive people just to have peace of mind. It does not mean that these people can continue to harm you in any way. It means the past is the past. The only moment is now. It’s not even the future that is of the utmost concern.
If you are more focused on the present and not the resentments of the past then you are more open to receive the great joy that is available NOW.
Spring clean your mind
From time to time one must take inventory of his/her thoughts and dreams. What we don’t realize is that we come into this lifetime as a whole, complete individual separate from our friends and loved ones. Their impression is so deep on us, sometimes, that we forget who we truly are.
Much can be accomplished by re-evaluating our thoughts and beliefs and then assessing whether they are ours or if they are someone else’s. If they are someone else’s they don’t, often times, suit us well.
When we decide to get rid of some of these old patterns (that aren’t even ours) we really begin to thrive.
Do this on a deeper, subconscious level (the the aid of therapy and/or other tools) then the effect will be greater.
Do yourself a favor clean out the closets of the mind and get rid of those old thoughts and beliefs that no longer fit. That would be the best spring cleaning any one can do.
We don’t, often times, see how things are working out. It’s kind of like the analogy that we all like to repeat over and over again. Life just keeps sending you different ingredients. One day you might get the sugar, then a few months (or even years later) you get the flour and by the time it arrives you forget about the sugar. Then you get some oil (it doesn’t matter what kind of oil you get oil) and you are still a bit confused. You see, things build. Things build over time and sometimes we get all of the ingredients and then it is quite a bit longer that we get the recipe. And then, for many of us, once we get the recipe we take time to refine the recipe.
What we are saying is that it just takes some time to all come together. But ALL THE WHILE you are looking for those cookies you are missing a lot of great things like the sugar, the flour and the butter. And there you are thinking that nothing is working out and all along it has been. Just saying. Show some gratitude sometimes. It is all working out.
Sometimes when we want something in our lives to change the best thing to do is just put this request out to the universe. Then it is our job just to sit and listen and wait for the next move to appear right in front of our eyes. When the next prompting to move appears just move.
It is relatively simple. The part that is hard is deciding to change, being willing to change and then submitting to change. You do not have to think so hard once you decide to change. You, merely, have to listen within and be willing to change.
A lot goes into changing because we, often times, have a lot vested in our current situations. We are tied to certain payoffs of remaining the same. We are in old habits or we do not know that there is more.
Decide to change, be willing to change and then listen within and act when prompted. Then change will occur. It is relatively easy if you follow these steps. No need to over intellectualize it. It is more the willingness to change than anything that prompts the change. Don’t think it through, but, rather, listen within and change will occur.
Plug in. And listen.
You did not come into this world to be anyone other than yourself. Great dis-content happens when you try to please everyone else. In fact, there is no way to please every one. If you are lucky you will find out what makes you happy and pursue your own, personal happiness. That is a life’s work in, and of, itself.
If someone tells you what to do know that that is what they would do. No one else is you so it is very unlikely that anyone, outside of yourself, will give you as good of advice as you can give yourself.
The hard part is learning to listen within. This takes practice and constant effort. If you can, listen within daily. And act on what information that you get as often as you get information (then you are well on your way to making yourself happy). So plug in everyday. And listen.
This time of year reminds many of the imperfections in their relationships and in life. This time of year does bring to the surface the many imperfections in one’s life because life is imperfect. We also tend to see that the grass is always greener on someone else’s lawn. Let me dispell some of these myths.
Don’t forget that the hardship is part of what makes this life so great. If you can start to embrace that things are hard here you might to see the infinite blessings that abound.
Happy Holidays to All. It is more than the presents and the great meal. It is about the great gratitude that we feel for life in whatever form it may come in. Just embrace this season for gratitude for what you have not what you don’t have.
The gift is the challenge
Things are hard, very hard. We came to Earth to be challenged. The challenge is the gift. To think otherwise makes life much harder than it needs to be.
The other gift is the fact that if you plug in, plug in more, all of the tools, resources and ability to get through anything will appear. So plug in more. Don’t fight the gift, the challenge; raise yourself up to the challenge. And then, guess what? Another challenge will appear. It is the nature of the game.
Sometimes we have to appreciate all things even if they are not exactly the way that we want them to be. Things are never going to 100% going to be perfect in our lives. We can appreciate all things, nonetheless. We, often times, get caught up in how (in our minds) we think things should be. This is an imperfect world, with imperfect people, with natural laws that make things hard (very hard). Is it not enough that we have love, have friends, have a life, have a job, have food on our tables? Those are many small miracles that get overlooked every day.
The more gratitude and appreciation we have for things, great and small, the more room that we create for more of the same. It is energy. Be in the energy of gratitude and you will create the space, more space, for more things to be grateful for.
We tell you time and time again that all will be ok. We say this when one is consciously aware and tuned it. Not only tuned in, but listens. We all can plug in when it is convenient, but to be continuously plugged in is the key.
It is a three step process:
As your life shifts (because of this change) you will also have to evaluate your goals as you go. Because, as you change and you see how plugging in and acting works out, your measly goals at the beginning might not meet your goals in the end.
If you can’t love yourself how can you expect others to love you?
When we don’t love ourselves enough our lives do not work out as well as they could. Our road blocks often exist just because we do not love ourselves or love ourselves enough. Most interpersonal relationships suffer just because both parties are not spending enough energy on loving themselves. And, instead, they are spending time trying to earn the love that, they, themselves need to provide for themselves.
Self love is hard. It is a constant effort. It will challenge you. However, if you want a loving, fulfilling relationship in your life you need to only start with loving yourself.
Messages in the Sand 