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How to have difficult conversations

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Let’s face it…we are all in relationships that need some tweaking. To add to the complication many of us have relationship issues with people who (a. cannot ever be wrong; b. cannot apologize; c. will try to make you feel wrong by trying to discuss issues).

This is a major complication in any relationship. It is not an obstacle though. What you can do to overcome this obstacle is to ask the person who (a. cannot ever be wrong; b. cannot apologize; c. will try to make you feel wrong by trying to discuss issues) if they want to work on the relationship issues. If they say “yes” try to present what you are experiencing. Say something along these lines…”If you want to work on our issues I am confused by why your defenses are (a. cannot ever be wrong; b. cannot apologize; c. will try to make you feel wrong by trying to discuss issues). It seems like you are conflicted. Maybe you need some time to deliberate. If you are wanting to work on our issues I will give you some time to figure out why your defense mechanisms are not in synch with your intent to work on our issues.

These people, often, do want to work on their issues. They are not aware of how their personality types, quirks, issues prevent that from happening. They keep tripping on their own feet (if you will).

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Do unto others…

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When people do not get how to treat other people they are just not getting it. This is not a negative statement to put them down. It is a fact. It is pretty evident how to treat others. You treat them how you want to be treated. Who cannot ask themselves the question, “How do I want to be treated?”

No one.

If someone does not know how to treat other people they are choosing not to ask themselves how they would want to be treated or perhaps they ask and don’t follow through.

We all know how to treat each other. The problem is in the amount of people that choose to treat others the way that they want to be treated.

This is not to put people down. It is merely to understand the element of personal choice in the matter.

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The “Golden Rule”

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When you get upset at how people are treating you remember that this soul is lost and forgot to remember that treating people as you would like to be treated is a “Golden Rule.” By “Golden Rule” we mean that once it is broken it is hard to remember that it was broken and many of the people have so forgotten this rule that they are lost and probably will not find their way back to this “Golden Life.”

When I talk about a “Golden Life” only a few people know what I am talking about because so few have truly followed the “Golden Rule.” It is a “Golden Rule” for a reason you know.

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This world belongs to all not just the few

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Oneness

Oneness is the only way

Ladies and gentleman and gentle beings we have rounded the corner and officially met the tipping point where you are no longer going to meet more self-centered people than not self-centered people.

I know hard to believe isn’t it. It is true. You will see evidence, some great and some small, but no longer do you need to worry that the “haves” will not be thinking of the “have-nots.” There will no longer be this notion.

We inherited this Earth. It is all of ours. There is no ownership of something so wondrous. All there is is all there is. It belongs to no one. We must be careful and respect all things and each other. Otherwise there will be not be things and a wonderful place like the Earth to enjoy it on.

What if I still meet self-centered people? Then you will have to guide them how to be now. The Earth has shifted. It belongs to all…not just a few. Those that think otherwise need to be redirected to know how things really are from now on.

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Don’t worry about what other people think – be happy

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Be Happy

Be happy. Make people jealous of your happiness.

When you worry about what other people think you are a prisoner to many people’s general state of unhappiness.

It is no secret that people are fearful and scared of the unknown. They are also hanging on to this notion that life should be easier. The thing that they don’t realize is that things are going to be hard and are going to be getting harder.

This expectation of things should be easier and the notion that life is actually getting harder make conflict in the form of unhappiness. Why subject yourself to something that has nothing to do with you?

Be happy. Make people jealous of your happiness. That is the only way to get around it.

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Perception vs reality

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Look for the good in your life. It abounds. We know that there are challenges. These challenges exist because of other people’s struggles with themselves and their ideas of how things should be and how things have actually been for awhile.

When your sense of truth and honesty and reality conflicts with other people’s ideas of how things have been then you think that you are what is being rejected.

Reality is really real. Some people prefer different versions of their own reality. Doesn’t mean that you need to take the concoction they are taking to make your life manageable.

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You do have choices when it comes to how people treat you

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When you worry about how other people treat you focus on how you treat you. Is allowing someone to treat you a certain way really treating yourself the way that you want to be treated?

Sometimes ignoring the problems perpetuates the problem(s) and the best, and most direct way, of changing this is to view your job as allowing or not allowing the people in your life to treat you that way.

If they don’t respond respectfully to your request for better treatment then they are making the choice not you. It’s not always on their terms. Those are no terms at all. To live by.

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What have you said today to someone that will encourage them to be bigger and better?

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Love

What have you said today to someone that will encourage them to be bigger and better?

Time and time again, it is the small person who walks around making other people feel small so that they will not feel small in comparison.

This is the cycle of the world. If you think you are small then you belittle others so that in your mind you do not seem so small.

Instead of bringing others down we should all be lifting people up. It is the big people that allow and encourage others to be big because they understand that when we all feel good about ourselves this becomes a much better place to live.

What have you said today to someone that will encourage them to be bigger and better?

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Fear is not where we need to be right now

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Echo quoteThere are a lot of people right now that are creating a lot of challenges for those around them. Think of it this way: they are in a fear place that is taking them to a place that they have never been before. When we are fearful we are needy and a little bit out of control. Don’t let those around you control you. They need to ground their fear, become more strong in their faith in themselves, humanity and the world. To go to fear is just going to make the upcoming changes harder.

When these individuals are with close relations you may have to talk to them about their fears, how they are manifesting and how it comes off to you and others.

Fear is not where we need to be. We need to ride with trust for a few waves of this change before it will become apparent to most that all is ok (and, in fact, recent waves of change will prompt greater, more permanent, sustainable change).

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We are in hard times.

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We are in hard times. I will say that again. We are in hard times. When I make that statement it is not about politics or the economy it is about the environment. When I say this I mean that there are going to be many a disaster that will be at your foot or at someone’s foot that you know and love dearly.

The Earth is not, yet, at a point of no return but the prognosis is pretty grim. These moments, now, can greatly impact the future. If you are going to do anything to help the plight of the Earth now (and forever more) these are the items that are the most important:

  • Recycling (because it saves resources)
  • CO2 emission reduction in any and all ways
  • Show the government that you will not buy their processed/natural foods. Even if it is not GMO the pesticides are wreaking havoc on everyone from the farmers, food handlers and the consumers. Grow your own food, shop local, shop from a small farmer. Show your concern with action.

That is all. Something to think about.