We are here to say that you are responsible for how you internalize your world. It is not ok to allow people to mistreat you, at all, nor is it your fault. It is ok to speak up when you feel like you have not been treated respectfully. If you want respect, you need to give respect so approach the subject respectfully. Often when people do not respect you it is because they do not have respect for themselves. So if they cannot hear your request for respect it is often because they, themselves, cannot yet respect themselves. Once it is expressed you cannot do anything but constantly, respectfully request respect. However, you cannot expect a person to change how they treat you until they work on loving themselves more.